who is mature, healthy, and ready for a real relationship<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\nYou want someone who will take responsibility.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
One of the most attractive features of any man is his ability to take responsibility for his actions. It can be considered a green flag, even.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A man-child will rely heavily on others to handle his problems. He will lack the personal maturity to make his own decisions. He spends money frivolously and has a hard time managing his finances. He acts up in the relationship and doesn\u2019t own up to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You deserve someone who is mature enough to take responsibility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You want someone who has good communication skills.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
A man-child will avoid having those deep conversations with you or any talk about the future. A man-child will rarely express empathy for you and merely listens to respond. A man-child gives you the silent treatment or acts out in passive-aggressive behavior when he\u2019s upset, instead of talking things out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You deserve someone who will have those tough conversations with you. Someone who will be emotionally mature enough to be willing to have deep conversations, who listens to understand, who talks things out with you. You deserve someone who communicates with you. Remember, communication is the absolute bare minimum in a relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You want someone who is reliable.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s incredibly unattractive when someone is flaky or unreliable. A man-child is someone who breaks promises, is late and fails to follow through on commitments. And if he\u2019s really a man-child, he won\u2019t take responsibility for being flaky. He\u2019ll make up an excuse and maybe blame someone or something else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You deserve a partner who will follow through on commitments and promises. You deserve more than what a man-child is (barely) offering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You want someone who is good at commitment and puts in an effort.
Commitment is scary\u2026to a man-child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You want someone who will put in the effort to get to know you on a deeper level, and who will commit to creating a life with you. You want someone who talks about a future with you. You want someone who has had serious relationships before (because they understand how much work goes into them). You want someone who puts in the effort to make future travel plans with you. You want all of these things \u2014 and you deserve that. So don\u2019t convince yourself into thinking that you\u2019re asking for too much. Don\u2019t settle for anything less.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You want someone who isn\u2019t self-centered.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s a difference between self-love and self-centeredness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Relationships are a two-way street. You don\u2019t want a partner who prioritizes their own needs and desires over yours. You don\u2019t want a partner who lacks empathy and only cares about themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You deserve someone who understands and cares about your feelings as well as the feelings of others. You deserve someone who takes the time to listen to what you say and empathizes with how you feel. You deserve someone who has emotional maturity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You want someone who is good at compromise and conflict resolution.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Healthy relationships involve compromise, understanding, and conflict resolution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A man-child might be unwilling to meet halfway. A man-child might not make sacrifices for the sake of the relationship because they simply don\u2019t care enough about the relationship to try. A man-child avoids talking about a problem calmly and rationally. Instead, he yells. He blames. He avoids the problem altogether.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You want \u2014 and deserve \u2014 someone who handles conflicts in a mature, rational, constructive manner. You deserve someone who will talk through a problem and is open to compromise and resolution. You deserve someone who puts in an effort because he cares about the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
No one is perfect. No relationship is perfect. But you shouldn\u2019t be settling for a relationship with a partner who acts more like a man-child. If you\u2019re with someone who you think might still have some growing up to do, then let them. And move on.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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