People think the purpose of finding a partner is so that you can stop feeling so lonely, but this isn\u2019t the right mindset if you want them to stay. It\u2019s when you\u2019re most independent that you\u2019re able to really put in the effort to maintaining a successful relationship. You have to be able and willing to be alone before being in a partnership, because there will still be times that you are. Your significant other isn\u2019t there to fill a void. They are there to add more when you\u2019re already whole.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There will always be times when your partner puts more effort into you than you into them, but the opposite is true as well. There will be times when you feel they are distant and you have to put in the work to pull them close again. The point is\u2014you both put in the effort to bring each other back into that equilibrium. You put in half the work and so do they. You can\u2019t have them always chasing you or they\u2019ll get tired and you\u2019ll start seeing them fall behind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Okay, let\u2019s be real. There will always be other people that you find attractive, intelligent, funny, charming\u2014whatever the appeal is, we have to recognize that we can be drawn to others at times when we\u2019re in a relationship. The point is, you have to be able to recognize that it\u2019s just that\u2014an attraction that most likely will fade away over time. It\u2019s also important to recognize the foundation and building of the relationship you are already in, which will be far greater when focused on it, as opposed to jumping from person to person. Yes, there are plenty of fish in the sea, but imagine finding that one fish, out of those billions, you are able to build the most beautiful life with. I suggest you hold onto it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you want to find and maintain a relationship, you have to give in to your feelings. You have to be willing to risk it all and not hold back, because it really is the only way you will gain the affections of the right partner. The wrong ones will be scared. They will run far away from your vulnerability and feelings. Let them. The right one will feel everything that you are feeling and maybe even more. They will feel the ability to open up to you as well\u2014creating the beginning of a blossoming relationship built on passion for one another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Whether it\u2019s your morning breath, addiction to cigarettes, constant neediness to the other’s touch\u2014you have to be willing to show it all. It\u2019s scary to allow another to see all the flaws you have felt once scared off other partners, but you also have to realize that your flaws make you into the beautiful individual you are. If you didn\u2019t have those unique flaws, you wouldn\u2019t be you. The right partner will understand. They will embrace you, regardless of your terrible breath in the morning, as long as you\u2019re willing to do the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are not a lot of people that can handle confrontation and so they shy away from it. Passive aggression will not find or keep you in a relationship. You have to be willing to disagree, open up and discuss in a healthy way the problems that occur in your relationship. Nobody is perfect, meaning no relationship is perfect either. Talk about the issues that arise, because pushing them aside will only allow them to grow into a potential ending of your relationship altogether.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When finding a partner, you may have to be willing to step out of your comfort zone to get them. There will always be the usual routines of meeting their friends, family and trying out their favorite restaurant. It\u2019s not going to work if you can\u2019t make the effort to step into their lives, as well as show them yours. You and your partner will not have corresponding lives and that\u2019s a good thing. You have the opportunity to learn about the world through their perspective. Take advantage of that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Relationships take time and a lot of effort. If you are not willing to stick through the hard times to get to the better ones, then you will find yourself constantly out of a relationship. Don\u2019t give up on the one you love, because they will be there for you as well. It\u2019s more about give and take, but also about pushing through the difficulties in order to strengthen your relationship and making it the best it could possibly be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Moving to another state when your partner gets a job, paying for the majority of rent as they get back on their feet, missing out on nights at the club to watch Netflix\u2014there are going to be so many sacrifices that come along with finding and maintaining a successful relationship. The thing is, they may seem like sacrifices at first, but these are the moves and changes you make that determine the strength in you and your partner\u2019s love for one another. It will show the other how much you care and are willing to give up in order to make it work. With the right person, it\u2019ll all be worth it, because the life you live together will always be far greater than the life you leave behind. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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